Last week as I went to sign out Saving Money with the Tightwad Twins: Practical Tips for Women on a Budget, the librarian said I had a $9 fine. I went home and thought a bit about money.
I grew up Dutch-Canadian and Christian Reformed, and āthou shalt save moneyā was the unspoken 11th commandment. We bought groceries in bulk and considered clothes at Goodwill a bit pricey.
After getting married, it didnāt take me long to adjust from the habitual frugality of a university student to the shoestring budget of a single-income family. Now, as a stay-at-home mom, it seems natural to compare notes with women in the church nursery about the cheapest brand of diapers or to exchange tips on homemade stain removers. And itās hard for me to shake the sense that thriftiness is virtuous.
Christians are called to be set apart from the world, but is penny-pinching really counterculturalāthe opposite of North American materialism? Iām not so sure. A frugal consumer is still a consumer, and an obsession with saving money has its own dangers.
For example, though I wouldnāt pay $350 at Toys āRā Us for a swing set, I might brag if I found one at a yard sale for $10. I donāt buy clothes from the Gap or Old Navy, but I will snatch them up secondhand. Even as I imagine Iām being countercultural by shopping for deals, if Iām doing it to fulfill my idea of what the average North American family needs, itās consumerism. If I think my 2-year-old needs a riding toy, Iāve been convinced by the commercials whether or not I buy such items new.
Another danger is that itās easy to become enamored, even obsessed, with economy. But itās no coincidence that almost every money-saving technique is the exact opposite of a time-saving technique. If I focus too much on moneyāwhether making it or saving itāI have less time to volunteer at a crisis center or to write letters to someone in prison. As Phil Callaway points out, āEven a penny, if held close enough to the eye, can block our view of [God]ā (Making Life Rich Without Any Money, Harvest House, 1998, 2002).
Frugality can limit my perspective so that I see only coupons and yard-sale signs and not the loneliness of my neighbor. Frugality can convince me to try every money-saving tip I come across (cut the elastics on your broccoli in half to make two! Use old toast to make croutons!) rather than to play with my girls. Frugality can reassure me Iām not materialistic because I didnāt pay as much for our dining-room set as most people do.
When Jesus tells us we ācannot serve both God and moneyā (Matt. 6:24), heās not just talking to wealthy people (Callaway, 129). Itās a warning for my single-income household tooāa reminder that saving money can become just as much of a passion as accumulating it.
About the Author
Angela Reitsma Bick is a freelance writer and editor living in Barrie, Ontario. She attends First Christian Reformed church, Barrie.